The Sounds of Advice #32: Being Assertive, But Not Bitchy
How to be assertive without being a bitch: Aisling: Be firm but respectful. Don't lose your temper or make any snide remarks no matter how tempting. Sandy: Anyone can be confident in themselves. The best way to be assertive is know you are confident, but also show others that they can be the same. That is what will make you not seem like a bitch to others. Kate: Found this article that I think might be helpful. It gave some great tips! 1. Start small. You wouldn’t try to scale a mountain before reading a manual, practicing on a rock wall and then moving on to bigger peaks. Going in unprepared just sets you up for failure. Paterson suggested trying to be assertive in mildly tense situations, such as requesting to be seated at a different spot at a restaurant. Then gently work up to tougher situations such as talking to your spouse about infidelity issues, he said. 2. Learn to say no. People worry that saying no is selfish. It’s not. R...